Cpt J's best friend's wife is pregnant - again.
I am going to buy a new pair of shoes at lunch.
Cpt J's wife just is
1 hour ago
Friday, October 31, 2008
Thursday, October 30, 2008
Only The Lonely
I am an only child - well, sort of. I was raised as an only child. My dad was quite the "ladies man" when he was in the military. I have several half-siblings, none of which I have a relationship with.
Every year around this time I start thinking about them - a lot. More so now that Cpt J and I are trying to get pregnant. I have met 3 of them, 2 are still a mystery, apparently their may be one more and one has passed away. I have nieces and nephews that I am able to keep up with on myspace (via lurking) and I am sure that there are more out there ... at times it can be very depressing to know that there are people out there - people that want nothing to do with you.
The ones that I have met must have had it in their minds that the "reunion" would be an Oprah moment, we would all hug and cry and live happily-ever-after. It didn't happen that way. My "sister" actually stalked my parents for two days before walking up and ringing the door bell. Had she taken off the rose colored glasses, she would have noticed that my dad could not walk on his own, could not be left alone and perhaps she should have left well enough alone. But, I know my dad so I can see why she needed to seek him out. Bottom line - they were all disappointed.
My dad had developed dementia after a long battle with a neurological disease. While it was not Alzheimer's, the symptoms were very similar. He wasn't the "daddy" that they had envisioned him to be. He wasn't handing out hundreds and encouraging more visits. As a matter of fact, he could have told them he was a race car driver - and he thought he was telling the truth.
Many letters were sent from my two "sisters" blaming my dad for all of their problems. My mom intercepted them as my dad couldn't hold a piece of paper long enough to read. She read them to him, but hid them from me. She should have destroyed them, but didn't. So, when my dad passed away - I found them. And let them have it. To the tune of "go to hell, your probably not even his and I don't care if you rot."
So, here we are almost 7 years later. My nephew looks just like my dad (myspace pic). I want so desperately to tell him that. He is now 24 years old and married, could he handle it? Do I invade their lives the way they did mine? Do they even care? Do they know that there are still 3 other siblings out there? Do I go another Holiday season grumping around and just going through the motions? My mom is supportive of any decision that I make - Cpt J not so much. I tell him that I want our child (when I we have one) to know my dad's side of the family....
I miss my dad terribly. I could never have predicted that all of his memories would be erased at such an early age. I want him back for just a few moments to answer so many questions. And to get one of his great hugs.
Opinions are welcome.
Cpt J's wife dreading the Holidays
Every year around this time I start thinking about them - a lot. More so now that Cpt J and I are trying to get pregnant. I have met 3 of them, 2 are still a mystery, apparently their may be one more and one has passed away. I have nieces and nephews that I am able to keep up with on myspace (via lurking) and I am sure that there are more out there ... at times it can be very depressing to know that there are people out there - people that want nothing to do with you.
The ones that I have met must have had it in their minds that the "reunion" would be an Oprah moment, we would all hug and cry and live happily-ever-after. It didn't happen that way. My "sister" actually stalked my parents for two days before walking up and ringing the door bell. Had she taken off the rose colored glasses, she would have noticed that my dad could not walk on his own, could not be left alone and perhaps she should have left well enough alone. But, I know my dad so I can see why she needed to seek him out. Bottom line - they were all disappointed.
My dad had developed dementia after a long battle with a neurological disease. While it was not Alzheimer's, the symptoms were very similar. He wasn't the "daddy" that they had envisioned him to be. He wasn't handing out hundreds and encouraging more visits. As a matter of fact, he could have told them he was a race car driver - and he thought he was telling the truth.
Many letters were sent from my two "sisters" blaming my dad for all of their problems. My mom intercepted them as my dad couldn't hold a piece of paper long enough to read. She read them to him, but hid them from me. She should have destroyed them, but didn't. So, when my dad passed away - I found them. And let them have it. To the tune of "go to hell, your probably not even his and I don't care if you rot."
So, here we are almost 7 years later. My nephew looks just like my dad (myspace pic). I want so desperately to tell him that. He is now 24 years old and married, could he handle it? Do I invade their lives the way they did mine? Do they even care? Do they know that there are still 3 other siblings out there? Do I go another Holiday season grumping around and just going through the motions? My mom is supportive of any decision that I make - Cpt J not so much. I tell him that I want our child (when I we have one) to know my dad's side of the family....
I miss my dad terribly. I could never have predicted that all of his memories would be erased at such an early age. I want him back for just a few moments to answer so many questions. And to get one of his great hugs.
Opinions are welcome.
Cpt J's wife dreading the Holidays
Friday, October 24, 2008
Crime As A Career
I ran into my BFF neighbor last night. She apologized for being stand-offish, I guess things are not so great at home. I really didn't want to get in to it with her, so just let her know that if she ever needed to talk ....
She did let me know that several cars, including hers have been broken into. Fabulous. Cpt J has been looking for any excuse to buy a gun. Now, don't get me wrong - I grew up around guns, but really don't like them - AT ALL. When I was in college, I, along with several other people were held at gun point during a robbery at a Subway. Two people were shot before the robbers took off. Shortly there after I started going to the shooting range with a .22 and learned how to handle a gun. But, seriously - I just don't feel comfortable with one in the house.
I thought buy buying a big house, in the 'burbs, with a big gate out front would somehow isolate us from the people that "live outside the gate." But, for whatever the reason may be, their are people that think what I have should be theirs. We work very hard for what we have and I am very angry that their are people that make crime their job.
So, Cpt J is installing sensor lighting on each corner of the house (we should have done this anyway) and I will no longer keep the windows open at night (I am ok with them open during the day when we are home). I refuse to be a prisoner, but I am going to do what ever I can to protect my family without having to resort to purchasing a firearm. We have already started chatting with other neighbors about establishing some sort of "watch" and getting others involved.
Maybe Cpt J has the right idea to sell everything, move to Cat Island, and run a little tiki bar :)
Cpt J's wife disappointed in what the world is coming to
She did let me know that several cars, including hers have been broken into. Fabulous. Cpt J has been looking for any excuse to buy a gun. Now, don't get me wrong - I grew up around guns, but really don't like them - AT ALL. When I was in college, I, along with several other people were held at gun point during a robbery at a Subway. Two people were shot before the robbers took off. Shortly there after I started going to the shooting range with a .22 and learned how to handle a gun. But, seriously - I just don't feel comfortable with one in the house.
I thought buy buying a big house, in the 'burbs, with a big gate out front would somehow isolate us from the people that "live outside the gate." But, for whatever the reason may be, their are people that think what I have should be theirs. We work very hard for what we have and I am very angry that their are people that make crime their job.
So, Cpt J is installing sensor lighting on each corner of the house (we should have done this anyway) and I will no longer keep the windows open at night (I am ok with them open during the day when we are home). I refuse to be a prisoner, but I am going to do what ever I can to protect my family without having to resort to purchasing a firearm. We have already started chatting with other neighbors about establishing some sort of "watch" and getting others involved.
Maybe Cpt J has the right idea to sell everything, move to Cat Island, and run a little tiki bar :)
Cpt J's wife disappointed in what the world is coming to
Thursday, October 23, 2008
Not A Political Rant
This is not a political rant. This is me being pretty ticked off at Cpt J at the moment ... he is once again up for sale.
We got into a very heated debate last night about trick or treating, which lead to women's rights. I asked him is opinion about infants and toddlers being dressed up to go trick or treating. He agreed that this is way too young - but then he informed me it would really be up to me because he won't be the one taking them. crickets, crickets, crickets .... WHAT? He told me that would be my JOB. WHAT? And it was on .... by the end of the argument, I won out with - "well, if I have been at work all day and you have been home sitting on reserve watching movies - you will FREAKIN' GO TRICK OR TREATING!!!" I go in to the kitchen to my wifely duty (sarcasm) of making his heiness dinner. I turn the TV to Dr. Phil. Well ..... last nights topic was about men's rights. Without explaining the topic, you can pretty much tell where this was going. Again, this is not a political rant and my next statement should not determine who I will be voting for.
I believe in my right's as a woman to choose. It's like as soon as you say that everyone wants to jump on you and call you a "baby killer." No, that is not the case. I just want to options to be available to women. Enough said. Cpt J and I went to bed without speaking last night.
I feel like my darling husband is a neandrathal at times. I told him that if he had it his way I would wear a skirt to my ankles every day, churn butter, milk cows and not even have the right to vote. AAAACKKKK, I am so ticked at him right now!!
Thank you for letting me vent. Currently I have a reserve pilot that needs a haircut for sale. He shouldn't use any cleaning products that contain bleach. He smells good and gives great hugs, but shouldn't be left alone for any extended period of time. Inquire within.
Cpt J's wife is burning her bra
We got into a very heated debate last night about trick or treating, which lead to women's rights. I asked him is opinion about infants and toddlers being dressed up to go trick or treating. He agreed that this is way too young - but then he informed me it would really be up to me because he won't be the one taking them. crickets, crickets, crickets .... WHAT? He told me that would be my JOB. WHAT? And it was on .... by the end of the argument, I won out with - "well, if I have been at work all day and you have been home sitting on reserve watching movies - you will FREAKIN' GO TRICK OR TREATING!!!" I go in to the kitchen to my wifely duty (sarcasm) of making his heiness dinner. I turn the TV to Dr. Phil. Well ..... last nights topic was about men's rights. Without explaining the topic, you can pretty much tell where this was going. Again, this is not a political rant and my next statement should not determine who I will be voting for.
I believe in my right's as a woman to choose. It's like as soon as you say that everyone wants to jump on you and call you a "baby killer." No, that is not the case. I just want to options to be available to women. Enough said. Cpt J and I went to bed without speaking last night.
I feel like my darling husband is a neandrathal at times. I told him that if he had it his way I would wear a skirt to my ankles every day, churn butter, milk cows and not even have the right to vote. AAAACKKKK, I am so ticked at him right now!!
Thank you for letting me vent. Currently I have a reserve pilot that needs a haircut for sale. He shouldn't use any cleaning products that contain bleach. He smells good and gives great hugs, but shouldn't be left alone for any extended period of time. Inquire within.
Cpt J's wife is burning her bra
Tuesday, October 21, 2008
Rules of Friendship
I am not an instigator. I can't stand people that throw out "scenarios" like "what if this happened," or "what if you did this," at inappropriate times. I had an instigator at my house a couple of weekends ago. What I thought was a brief moment in time, an annoying person that would never come back, is still lingering. I am embarrassed to say that my dear, darling, redneck husband has a big temper. But, his temper is limited to what he describes as idiots. Idiots are people that typically don't see things his way and disagree with him I topics that he considers to be important. I call it being "passionate" about a subject. Otherwise known as obnoxious.
So, this guy - I will call him R, was visiting with a girlfriend of ours. I didn't like him the first time I met him, but because we love her - gave him another opportunity to redeem himself. Situation played out the same, too much alcohol got consumed and subjects got heated. R is an instigator. Knowing that J is "passionate" about certain subjects, R pressed with what if's? Bottom line, it turned out ugly and R will not be back.
Here is the problem. R has contacted me. He is in love with my friend and thinks by apologizing to me, she will forgive him. He wrote this long email about what a jackass he is and how he knows he disrespected us. Let me remind you - we are all knocking on 40's door. I am not in HS or college anymore, this is all so ridiculous to me. Cpt J doesn't want to hear it. By the way, my friend wants nothing to do with R, so there is no question about whether I will accept the apology or not.
Here is the question. How do you handle it when you have a friend that is part of a couple - and you don't like one person in the couple, your DH does, or vice versa? I have several friends that J can't stand, but I tolerate them. Should Cpt J do the same for me or should we just keep all of our friends separate?
PS... Cpt J does not lose his temper with me. I would kill him (not literally, but you know what I mean).
Cpt J's wife pondering the rules of friendship
So, this guy - I will call him R, was visiting with a girlfriend of ours. I didn't like him the first time I met him, but because we love her - gave him another opportunity to redeem himself. Situation played out the same, too much alcohol got consumed and subjects got heated. R is an instigator. Knowing that J is "passionate" about certain subjects, R pressed with what if's? Bottom line, it turned out ugly and R will not be back.
Here is the problem. R has contacted me. He is in love with my friend and thinks by apologizing to me, she will forgive him. He wrote this long email about what a jackass he is and how he knows he disrespected us. Let me remind you - we are all knocking on 40's door. I am not in HS or college anymore, this is all so ridiculous to me. Cpt J doesn't want to hear it. By the way, my friend wants nothing to do with R, so there is no question about whether I will accept the apology or not.
Here is the question. How do you handle it when you have a friend that is part of a couple - and you don't like one person in the couple, your DH does, or vice versa? I have several friends that J can't stand, but I tolerate them. Should Cpt J do the same for me or should we just keep all of our friends separate?
PS... Cpt J does not lose his temper with me. I would kill him (not literally, but you know what I mean).
Cpt J's wife pondering the rules of friendship
Thursday, October 16, 2008
Explain My Cycle
Ok, so question - periods are supposed to start 28 days after the first day of your last period right? I have always counted 28 days after the last day of my last period. So, if the first one is correct then I am 32-33 days instead of 28? I need to know, because I feel like I am always late. If I am counting wrong, then I am screwing up the whole "when I should be ovulating" time frame. I am so not giving in to the having sex every other day theory to ensure that I am doin' it at the right time. I love my husband, think he is sexy, blah blah blah ... but a girl needs her rest.
I have a college friend that adopted two children from Russia. I busted out with the adoption opinion on Cpt J last night and his response was - "I don't want to adopt, but if a child were to fall into our lap.." crickets, crickets, crickets ... "WHAT? It's not like a stray dog!!" Seriously, he did not mean anything ugly and I get what he is saying, but his regurgitation of words left little to be desired. I think what my friend did was awesome and she has a great family, but I just don't see adoption as something we could do. Enough said.
I fell asleep again during the debate. I felt like my candidate did a good job and I feel a LITTLE better about my decision to vote for him. I am and always will be on the fence. We are Joe the Plumber and our friends are Joe the Plumber.
Cpt J has a four leg trip tomorrow! Yay for him - and me, I get to have Chipotle for lunch. Oh did I mention that as of Monday I am on a gluten free, no carbs, acai, vegetarian diet? Kidding.
Cpt J's wife enjoying International Delight Pumpkin Creamer
I have a college friend that adopted two children from Russia. I busted out with the adoption opinion on Cpt J last night and his response was - "I don't want to adopt, but if a child were to fall into our lap.." crickets, crickets, crickets ... "WHAT? It's not like a stray dog!!" Seriously, he did not mean anything ugly and I get what he is saying, but his regurgitation of words left little to be desired. I think what my friend did was awesome and she has a great family, but I just don't see adoption as something we could do. Enough said.
I fell asleep again during the debate. I felt like my candidate did a good job and I feel a LITTLE better about my decision to vote for him. I am and always will be on the fence. We are Joe the Plumber and our friends are Joe the Plumber.
Cpt J has a four leg trip tomorrow! Yay for him - and me, I get to have Chipotle for lunch. Oh did I mention that as of Monday I am on a gluten free, no carbs, acai, vegetarian diet? Kidding.
Cpt J's wife enjoying International Delight Pumpkin Creamer
Wednesday, October 15, 2008
Debates and Debates about Clomid
Well, tonight is the last Presidential debate. I fell asleep during the last one, I pray that doesn't happen again tonight. I have been trying VERY hard to educate myself on the topics (once I muddle through the Casey Anthony crap). I will be honest here, I am terrified of where our country is headed - whomever becomes are next President.
My assistant informed me today that she has started Clomid. While I was extremely excited for her, I couldn't help but have a pang of jealousy. She is 6 years younger than me. I don't know if I can wait for January for the next step. I am taking my doctors advice and going for the all natural way for the next two months. There is nothing that indicates that I can't get pregnant - except that I am sure Cpt J and I don't have sex nearly enough, or at the right time I guess. Seriously, I did not want to be someone that stressed about this. I WILL HAVE A BIG GLASS OF WINE TONIGHT!!
Cpt J got his schedule for ground school and then off to sim, all for recurrent. I need a man break for a few days.
Cpt J's wife getting ready to go home for the day
My assistant informed me today that she has started Clomid. While I was extremely excited for her, I couldn't help but have a pang of jealousy. She is 6 years younger than me. I don't know if I can wait for January for the next step. I am taking my doctors advice and going for the all natural way for the next two months. There is nothing that indicates that I can't get pregnant - except that I am sure Cpt J and I don't have sex nearly enough, or at the right time I guess. Seriously, I did not want to be someone that stressed about this. I WILL HAVE A BIG GLASS OF WINE TONIGHT!!
Cpt J got his schedule for ground school and then off to sim, all for recurrent. I need a man break for a few days.
Cpt J's wife getting ready to go home for the day
Monday, October 13, 2008
It's Monday - Again.
Why are men so freakin' immature? Bottom line - football, alcohol and neighbors swimming pools do not mix. At least they found out the Maglite flashlites are waterproof. God help me.
So my Cuban pork was a hit. Two days of marinating, 7 hours of cooking at 300 degrees and a lot of clean up later - I am proud to say was awesome. My house still has the lingering smell of garlic and mojo. Good times.
It is official. My new ex-BFF neighbor is avoiding me or us.. still not sure which one of us she is pissed at. J and I talked to her husband the other night and he while he was friendly enough (I think that is the problem), she stayed inside, sitting on her couch, ignoring us. Her husband, B, let us know that he is still unemployed and is really getting worried. While I feel really bad, I am a little suspicious at the same time. If you ask him what it is he does, he just says "computer work." What is that? That is the one of the broadest answers I have ever heard. Of course I press him and I still cannot get a straight answer. Whatever.
Cpt J is flying Friday, thank the Lord above. I can watch tv in the living room!!
Cpt J's wife doesn't know how to work the living room remote it has been so long
So my Cuban pork was a hit. Two days of marinating, 7 hours of cooking at 300 degrees and a lot of clean up later - I am proud to say was awesome. My house still has the lingering smell of garlic and mojo. Good times.
It is official. My new ex-BFF neighbor is avoiding me or us.. still not sure which one of us she is pissed at. J and I talked to her husband the other night and he while he was friendly enough (I think that is the problem), she stayed inside, sitting on her couch, ignoring us. Her husband, B, let us know that he is still unemployed and is really getting worried. While I feel really bad, I am a little suspicious at the same time. If you ask him what it is he does, he just says "computer work." What is that? That is the one of the broadest answers I have ever heard. Of course I press him and I still cannot get a straight answer. Whatever.
Cpt J is flying Friday, thank the Lord above. I can watch tv in the living room!!
Cpt J's wife doesn't know how to work the living room remote it has been so long
Friday, October 10, 2008
I Just Want To Go Home
My friend and I said something at the same time. I said, "jinx, you owe me a coke." She said that I am not allowed to say that. I asked, "why?" She said, "because we are not 16 anymore."
For some reason I am feeling my age today. Don't you hate when we people say that? What does that really mean? Seriously.
My boss asked me what my plans were for the weekend. I let her know that I won't plan more than a day ahead, but tomorrow I have to get my oil changed and buy tequila. Not necessary in that order.
Cpt J's wife is marinating pork for her Cubanish party tomorrow
For some reason I am feeling my age today. Don't you hate when we people say that? What does that really mean? Seriously.
My boss asked me what my plans were for the weekend. I let her know that I won't plan more than a day ahead, but tomorrow I have to get my oil changed and buy tequila. Not necessary in that order.
Cpt J's wife is marinating pork for her Cubanish party tomorrow
Thursday, October 9, 2008
BB Guns
How old should a child be before they are allowed to use a bb gun?
My redneck husband thinks it is totally acceptable that the kids next door have them. I was on my back porch last night and I could here the "pump, pump" sound and the little bb's rattling around. I looked out and they were shooting lizards oustide of their torn out pool screen. These kids are like 10! No parents in sight. I was a total tomboy growing up and had bb guns and cap guns, but this was in the '70's when everything went. I lived out in the country. Hello morons, we live in a community where I can see in your windows that's how close we are. Furthermore, I would have been beaten if I killed or wounded ANY living creature. What is this world coming to???
Cpt J got called off reserve - FOR NEXT Friday. Good grief, this is so lame. November can't get here soon enough. For those of you who don't know (or do and skim past this), yes Cpt J gets paid while he is on reserve, but only up to a certain amount of hours. When he is actually flying, he is eligible for hours above guarantee. This is where the big $ comes in. We need the big $ right now. If I have another electric bill over $250 this month, we are opening all the windows and going naked. I don't care if the neighbors see :)
Cpt J's wife on a roll today
My redneck husband thinks it is totally acceptable that the kids next door have them. I was on my back porch last night and I could here the "pump, pump" sound and the little bb's rattling around. I looked out and they were shooting lizards oustide of their torn out pool screen. These kids are like 10! No parents in sight. I was a total tomboy growing up and had bb guns and cap guns, but this was in the '70's when everything went. I lived out in the country. Hello morons, we live in a community where I can see in your windows that's how close we are. Furthermore, I would have been beaten if I killed or wounded ANY living creature. What is this world coming to???
Cpt J got called off reserve - FOR NEXT Friday. Good grief, this is so lame. November can't get here soon enough. For those of you who don't know (or do and skim past this), yes Cpt J gets paid while he is on reserve, but only up to a certain amount of hours. When he is actually flying, he is eligible for hours above guarantee. This is where the big $ comes in. We need the big $ right now. If I have another electric bill over $250 this month, we are opening all the windows and going naked. I don't care if the neighbors see :)
Cpt J's wife on a roll today
Wednesday, October 8, 2008
Every Day Life
There is a reason why I read your blogs every day. I have found a group of people that some how, some way manage to inspire me each day. Whether it is about health, politics, pets, your cute kids ... or just about being a better person. Thank you for reminding me that we are all in this together. Sharing what we think is "every day life," may help someone get through the day.
Thank you.
Cpt J's wife will make someone smile today
Thank you.
Cpt J's wife will make someone smile today
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