OVER IT

A few of the forums I read often have yet again brought up the flight attendant discussion. Why are some chicks just so freakin' stupid? First of all, if you read forums/blogs about aviation - you are reading about pilots and their SO's. Second, don't "assume" that your SO is so head-over-heels for you that he won't cheat. Finally, regardless of the laws you lay down, if they are going to cheat they will cheat - REGARDLESS!

You are the luckiest SO if you have never, ever, considered that your pilot is off doing something he shouldn't. You are the strongest person I know if you can sit at home for days on end with nothing to do and not get pissed that he is off with people you don't know. Staying in hotels, going out to dinner... If you think that you are immune to the up's and down's of this lifestyle you are living in a bubble.

Perhaps my experience is different. Here we go - I am older than my hubbie. He worked for a regional, based in another state and shared a crash pad with pilots AND flight attendants. The FA's were 19 - 23 years old, which is younger than Cpt J. The reality is this - the girls were barely out of high school, most of them came from small towns and were star struck with the life of travel, and THEY WANTED TO HOOK UP WITH A PILOT! Now, this was many years ago. Cpt J loved the attention and I am sure did nothing to discourage it. Did he have an actual physical affair? Not positive. Did he have emotional relationships? Most definitely. They all went out to local bars together, ate together, grocery shopped together. He was wrong, he knows he was wrong and we broke up several times over it.

There is a lot more to the story of how we got to where we are today. If you have been with me for a while I don't need to repeat it all. I just really felt compelled to get it off my chest once again that I can't stand the world of niavety that some people live in. You cannot truly give an opinion or tell someone what to do unless you have been in this industry for quite some time. I feel sorry for these women that will come back to the forums in a few months or year and cry that it has happened to them. Ah, whew - thanks for the vent.

Now I have Cpt J home every night and have gotten to know a lot of the crew. I am more confident in myself and the years have been good to us. I still keep an eye open and I ask a lot of questions. Some of my best girlfriends are married to pilots and fortunately we all seem to see things the same way. We have all been bitten in some way at some point on this journey....

By the way - my neighbor owns a contracting company. Turns out he has been having an affair for 2 years with a woman that he has been doing "work" for. Pretty convenient eh?

Cpt J's Tough Wife

I Live In An Insane Asylum

Well, we made it back from the beach safe and sound. I do have a sunburn though and it is in an awful place. That area just barely in your armpit. My suit jacket is rubbing it, I feel like I have some sort of weirdo armpit fat that is rubbing it... it just sucks. Poor 'ole Cpt J had to put his uniform on this morning and the tops of his legs are burnt. Poor pup.

Speaking of pups. I decided a long time ago that my doggie has a mental illness. My mom let me know yesterday that "he just senses how you are feeling." Ew, not sure how to handle that one. So, doggie slept with me all night and gave me the sad eyes this morning. Actually it was more like, "you dumb cow I can't believe you are leaving me home alone today." It's amazing how guilty a dog can make you feel. I rescued him 10 years ago and it has always been this way. I used to live in a loft that he could look through a balcony down to the landing. I would have to fight it every day to look up. If I did, I would have to walk all the way back up to kiss him again. Damn, I am whipped!!

It's back to the grind. Keeping busy until next weekend.

Oh, by the way my FIL informed me that in order to get pregnant I need to drink whiskey and have sex upside down in the bathtub. What the hell, won't I drown? If anyone has a better visual on that one, please let me know.

Air kisses,

Cpt J's wife

No Care Day!

One more day. Just one more day to have be in this office before I am free! Free for 4 days!

I woke up this morning feeling like a small band of aliens consumed my body. I just didn't want to get up... well, the thunder started and the beast started going bananas. I was left with no choice. So, I indulged him, made a cup of coffee (yes, I only drink instant coffee) and went outside to smoke a cig (yep, nasty habit) in my pajamas. Cpt J has a total fit when I do this. I by no means have the shape of a top model, and I wear PJ's with little animals on them (heeehehee). Basically, they should be left for inside wear only. But, this morning I decided I just didn't care and it felt GREAT! I really had to come off like the biggest white trash loser this morning (I am smiling). Coffee in hand, cig between my lips, yelling at my dog, scratching my butt and yawning - in my jammies.

I really think my friends would be shocked if they saw me doing this. Hell, I would be shocked if I saw any of my neighbors behaving like this. But, today is a no care day.

So, I encourage you to join me in not giving a sh*t about what you don't have to today.

Condo Canoodiling!

Seems like everyone I know has a "problem." I am not sharing this lightly, it just now hit me all at once that what I think is HUGE, is just a tick in some others lives.

You know about my friend and co-worker with the brain tumor - she is now on chemo.

My boss is having a bone marrow test today and someone got a hold of two of her credit cards and charged up over $2,000.

My other co-worker had negative results on a test she had the other day.... more to follow.

Everyone in here is on anti-depressants or mood stabilizers (I am not ashamed to say I am one of them).

One of my best friends just lost her grandmother.

My assistant is getting a divorce.

I wasn't kidding right???

My beast chewed a whole through the door during a thunderstorm and all the rain has brought in little nasties in the house. Pest control is coming today (I can't stand the smallest of water bug).

On a happier note, we are going to the condo this weekend!! It has been hotter than I imagine hell all week. The water will be warm and the drinks will be cold. We are having some other friends join us which is always a good time. There is an amazing bar on the beach that has the best seafood and cheapo drinks. I think a seabreeze and a sunburn is just what the doctor ordered.

Cpt J has a crapo schedule next month, but at least he is keeping a line. The airline is cutting back a few flights in one location for now, but so far he is safe (me crossing fingers).

Partner of A Pilot - for some reason I can't comment on your site... I am still trying to figure it out :)

Peace!

Note of Thought

I was in CLT on Friday afternoon and Sunday morning returning from a visit with friends. We had to wait about an hour each time and I love to people watch.

This time was a little different. I had a ticket, Cpt J was standby. He had on his uniform and was looking pretty handsome if I do say so myself. I could not believe how many people stared at him, or me or both. It has been quite a while since I have been with him in public while he is in his uniform. It was pretty cool.

On another note, my thoughts are with all my girls that have SO's facing furlough. My fingers are crossed for you all. Currently Cpt J's airline is hanging tough, but each day the news is good is like a breath of fresh air.

Guide to Reality Part 1

A pilot's wife guide to the reality of this life, part 1:

To get a job with a regional your SO will have to pay tens of thousands of $$$$$. Do not co-sign or mortgage your home, let them figure out how they are going to fund their dream.

Do not chase metal. Don't quit your job, change your college, or make any additional financial sacrifices to follow his dream.

Be weary of flight attendants.

Follow your gut. It is usually right.

Finish college, maintain your career. You will be glad you did.

Go out with your friends and see your family whenever you can. When your SO is home, you need spend time together.

Listen to his stories, pretend like you care.

Don't gush to people that your SO is a pilot. You are important and should make people realize that you have a life too.

Give him a list of things to do when he gets home. He deserves a day off just like everyone else, but then he needs to contribute to the household. Notice I mentioned one day. We are lucky if we get one weekend day to ourselves, so that is what he gets too. My Saturdays are consumed with grocery shopping, laundry, etc. I do not sit around watching Lifetime.

Give lots hugs and kisses.

Don't be afraid to ask questions. Just don't make it an interrogation. You have a right to know what goes on at the crash pad and who-is-who.

Don't make drunk calls or sleep check calls at 2:00 AM.

Going through his flight bag is ok (just be prepared). Do it in front of him. Snooping just adds intrigue and makes it even worse if you have to confront him.

Make sure that life insurance policies are kept up to date.

Do not combine bank accounts.

Do not look at his cell phone bill. There will be numbers on there that you don't recognize and this will cause major, uneccessary anxiety.

Check the myspace of co-workers. Don't keep it a secret, ask questions if necessary.

Stay educated about the industry.

OCD

I have a confession. I can't tell anyone how lame I am.

When I got engaged, I did the whole theknot.com site. I created the whole thing, checked it every day. We never had one visitor. Not one. So, I determined that my friends are all like me - they thought it was dumb.

Well, today I have joined fertilityfriends.com. I swore I would never do anything like this. I promised myself I wouldn't care whether I got pregnant or not - just let it happen - if it does, it does. I did the whole first day of last period entry and then poof! this calendar shows up with my fertile days, ovulating, etc. I now have a new obsession. I have been honest about my self-diagnosed OCD and now I have something else to add to my list.

As with most obsessions, this one will probably wear itself out as well - but, with little to do at my desk right now..... this will absorb my work day.

Now, I am making myself another promise. I WILL NOT JOIN A MOMMY WEBSITE!!! :)

God, if Cpt J knew I was up to this stuff during the day........ YIKES!

Have a safe weekend and a great 4th!