OVER IT

A few of the forums I read often have yet again brought up the flight attendant discussion. Why are some chicks just so freakin' stupid? First of all, if you read forums/blogs about aviation - you are reading about pilots and their SO's. Second, don't "assume" that your SO is so head-over-heels for you that he won't cheat. Finally, regardless of the laws you lay down, if they are going to cheat they will cheat - REGARDLESS!

You are the luckiest SO if you have never, ever, considered that your pilot is off doing something he shouldn't. You are the strongest person I know if you can sit at home for days on end with nothing to do and not get pissed that he is off with people you don't know. Staying in hotels, going out to dinner... If you think that you are immune to the up's and down's of this lifestyle you are living in a bubble.

Perhaps my experience is different. Here we go - I am older than my hubbie. He worked for a regional, based in another state and shared a crash pad with pilots AND flight attendants. The FA's were 19 - 23 years old, which is younger than Cpt J. The reality is this - the girls were barely out of high school, most of them came from small towns and were star struck with the life of travel, and THEY WANTED TO HOOK UP WITH A PILOT! Now, this was many years ago. Cpt J loved the attention and I am sure did nothing to discourage it. Did he have an actual physical affair? Not positive. Did he have emotional relationships? Most definitely. They all went out to local bars together, ate together, grocery shopped together. He was wrong, he knows he was wrong and we broke up several times over it.

There is a lot more to the story of how we got to where we are today. If you have been with me for a while I don't need to repeat it all. I just really felt compelled to get it off my chest once again that I can't stand the world of niavety that some people live in. You cannot truly give an opinion or tell someone what to do unless you have been in this industry for quite some time. I feel sorry for these women that will come back to the forums in a few months or year and cry that it has happened to them. Ah, whew - thanks for the vent.

Now I have Cpt J home every night and have gotten to know a lot of the crew. I am more confident in myself and the years have been good to us. I still keep an eye open and I ask a lot of questions. Some of my best girlfriends are married to pilots and fortunately we all seem to see things the same way. We have all been bitten in some way at some point on this journey....

By the way - my neighbor owns a contracting company. Turns out he has been having an affair for 2 years with a woman that he has been doing "work" for. Pretty convenient eh?

Cpt J's Tough Wife